“Do You Love To Hate Me Out Of Fear” – Negotiation Insight

“The only reason you hate me is that you fear me. Your fear stems from not knowing me and accepting me and my ways for what they are. You think I’m trying to take something from you. Nothing could be further from the truth. All I’m attempting to do is live the life promised me, which was paid for by the sweat and toil of my ancestors. My voice is that of a cry of a people whose time has arrived.” -Greg Williams, The Master Negotiator & Body Language Expert (Click to Tweet)

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“Do You Love To Hate Me Out Of Fear”

The two of them were standing there – they weren’t bothering anyone. Then, a cruising vehicle came to a halt. The occupants began assailing the two individuals with racial slurs and hurled four-letter words at them. While doing so, the occupants of the vehicle were also shouting, “go back where you belong,” which was ironic because the two people were living in the same neighborhood as the vehicle’s occupants.

Everyone knows the passengers in the car didn’t mean ‘go home’ when they shouted at the other people. They were implying, leave this country. Their sentiments said, leave our country. And that shows how ignorant some people can be. When you speak of the U.S., it’s the native Indians, if anyone, should tell others to go back where they came from – and they don’t.

So, what causes some people to hate others? In most cases, they do so out of fear, which stems from a lack of understanding about the culture or motives of other individuals. In the minds of others, such hatred originates from the way another group has treated a group of people. Such as what occurred during the days of slavery. Even though it happened in the U.S. many decades ago, the remnants of it still linger in today’s culture. And those remnants appear to be growing stronger, versus being eradicated with time.


Imagine being ripped from the land you love, an environment, a place you’ve called home. Your life may not have been everything you wanted, but you were free – and your life was yours to shape and mold as you wished. Then, your life takes an unimaginable turn. It’s a change that was unanticipated, unsought, and unwanted. It’s one that’s unappreciated. Within an instant, your life has changed forever. And that change is one that your lineage will suffer from for generations to come.

Okay, so that didn’t happen to you, your father, or even his father. It occurred so many generations and decades ago that your thought is, why can’t ‘they’ just let it go. To which the reply from ‘them’ might be, you don’t understand me and what’s happened to those like me. And that’s why I can’t let it go. We cannot forget, less you further entrap those like me. Do you wonder why some people of some races despise people of other races? If you do, wonder no more. The hate comes from the scabs of racism. And those scars are still healing while some attempt to pour salt into them.

Off The Plantation

Oh, happy day! That’s what many people thought in the U.S. in 2008. The country had elected its first president of color. The change that so many had hoped for had finally arrived – or so they thought. There were whispers of, “we’re off the plantation now!”

Instead of the new light of hope shining brighter, calls arose demanding that the shackles used to ‘keep them in line’ be reapplied and strengthened. ‘Overcome this,’ was the silent riposte that sought to reinsert itself. It shown in new laws and opened attitudes that had, up to that point, lurked in the shadows of the dark. Then bam – it came into the light for all to see. It bellowed in statements such as, ‘Jews will not replace us.’ For others, it was, ‘go back where you came from.’ While some thought that they’d finally escaped the proverbial plantation, others were sending their surrogates after them in an attempt to reenslave those that sought freedom to live the life that the constitution had guaranteed them.  


I’m not your ‘boy,’ respect me – me too! I’m taking a knee to protest injustice.

When the existing powers try to hollow the mind and opportunities of any race continuously, eventually, turmoil will occur. It will start in the form of protest, which may last for decades. And those protests will become even stronger over time. They run the risk of upsetting what some see as the natural order of things. We’ve seen it occur in South Africa and other places around the world. And it can happen in America.

When people become sick and tired of being sick and tired, they’ll seek to eradicate the pain, and ill-will thrust upon them. There mantra has been, and they will be encouraged in shouting, we shall overcome. The question you might consider is when they do, who will you side with – where will you stand?  


Do you hear me now? The voices of the oppressed are growing louder. To lend a tone of deafness is to ignore the inevitable. Change always occurs. And thus, you can embrace it or not. If you choose the latter, change will still manifest itself, and you’ll be changed anyway. So, come to grips with the forces that are assembling. Do so by seeking ways to add your voice to those forces. By aligning yourself with it, you’ll have a role in the shaping of what it becomes. That means you’ll have an outlet for your voice to be heard. Without your voice, you’ll become muted by the masses. And for them, everything will still be right with the world – but for you, it won’t.

Remember, you’re always negotiating!

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