“Sunday Negotiation Insight”
“Don’t resist growth. It’s happening all the time. Grow with it.” -Greg Williams, The Master Negotiator & Body Language Expert
“What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up”
What do you want to be when you grow up? Remember people asking you that when you were a kid? How are you doing with becoming whatever you thought you’d be?
As kids, we’re not really sure what the world is all about. Thus, we seek to become what appears to be exciting, flashy, and prestigious. Then, as we grow older we become more circumspective. We start to conform to society’s norms and we discover what we’re good at. We go through that iteration multiple times throughout our lives as more is revealed about our abilities.
Truth be known, we never stop growing. Since the world continues to move (i.e. new technologies, methods to accomplish goals, etc.) we move with it.
So, as you go about answering the question, what do you want to be when you grow up, you might consider rephrasing it. Instead, you might ask, what do you want to be at some point in your life and what will that point look like? Then, assess what you’ll have to do to get to that point. Question the skills you’ll need and how you’ll obtain them. Realizing that you’ll pose such questions many times throughout your life should give you peace of mind, knowing that you’re always in transition. Thus, you’re not who you were yesterday and you’re not who you’ll be tomorrow. You are who you’ve made yourself into today by answering the question, what do I want to be when I grow up.
What does this have to do with negotiations?
First, you’re always negotiating (i.e. what you do today influences what occurs tomorrow). As such, the goals you set for the negotiation is a conglomerate of what you’ve experienced in becoming who you are. Stated simply, the negotiation is influenced by your perspective. Thus, while you’re negotiating you’ll do so from all of the hopes and let-downs you’ve experienced in the past. That’s something to be mindful of since it’ll play a pivotal role in your decision making.
Suffice it to say, even if you’re grown, you’re still growing; you’re not complete. Grow your negotiation skills every day. That’s not a plug to say you should do so by buying my products. I’m not that shallow!
Once you grow your negotiation skills, you’ll discover more opportunities will avail themselves to you. That’s because you’ll know how to achieve more of what you want. That will allow you to grow stronger and faster in life … and everything will be right with the world.
What are your takeaways? I’d really like to know. Reach me at Greg@TheMasterNegotiator.com
Remember, you’re always negotiating.